| V for Violation |
EVT or Expectancy Violations Theory, as Judee Burgoon puts it, is the reaction of the person upon the invasion of personal space (the preferred distance from others).
There are three concepts in this theory. Let me start with, expectancy. It is our own set of guidelines or rules in which we follow. We have our own preferred distance from other people when we communicate. Next is violation valence. It's simply the total violation a person has made to your personal space. Last but not the least is the communicator reward valence, which sums up our benefits from the conversation. These benefits, however, are not all
positive.
Example:
Marla is a modern lady from France, and Daniela is your traditional "Maria Clara" from the Philippines. Carrie introduced Maria to Daniela and vice-versa. They talk about France: it's culture, it's language, and it's people. They also talk about the Philippines, with the same subtopics. After a few exchange of words, Marla has to go. So she kisses Daniela on both sides of her cheeks. Being the Maria Clara, she was shocked by the gesture. Why? Simply because, we Filipinos (or, let's say the traditional ones) aren't used to the Western way of greeting. Just like the Japanese, when they greet or bid farewell, they don't kiss each other's cheeks, instead they bow their heads as a sign of respect. This clearly shows us that Marla has violated the personal space of Daniela, since her gesture is not part of Daniela's social norms. Culture difference is a gateway for a lot of violations of rights since we really don't know what other people from different cultures are used to. :)
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| WNTD TXTM8. TEXT: zero-nine-one-seven-teen-na-ako |
Social Information Processing Theory
is a communication theory which uses the gained information as a basis to form interpersonal impressions, which could lead to forming relationships.
The SIP way of getting information is not through verbal ways, but it's through computer-mediated communication (CMC). Examples of CMCs are text messages, electronic mails (e-mails) and instant messages. In CMC, we have verbal cues, which a user creates in order to create impressions to make the receiver believe. There's also the extended time, which simply means the time it takes for the sender and the receiver to exchange messages.
Engaging in relationships using CMC could be quite interesting but it could also be dangerous. Since we don't really have any idea on what the person who we're talking to looks like or who this person really is, we could expose ourselves unconsciously to strangers.
Moving on, there's also this hyperpersonal perspective which is the relationships made through CMC are more intimate than those of the face-to-face method. The sender could create an imaginary identity to fool the receiver, and the receiver could either believe the sender or counter the attack and also create an imaginary person. Here's a drawing to illustrate how CMC works. :)
*not their real names/age/location/numbers. :p
sender: gats_pogi//pablo
receiver: shashing//carmy
channel: tuesday, 8:30PM; the time they agreed on to talk again.
feedback: they want to talk to each other again, after this conversation.
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| Lights, Camera, INTERACTION. |
Symbolic Interactionism
Meaning
Ever wondered why we act different towards our friends, our family and strangers?
It's because our actions are based from the meanings we give to these people.
Language
We assume. We assume because that's what we all do. We take things for what we just know. We don't usually think harder and find out that what we thought was wrong.
Thought
We usually have this so-called two second delay when we talk to others. It's because we anticipate how the listener would react to what we are going to say. We tend to place ourselves in the shoes of others, pretending we're them and try to feel how they're going to feel.
Self
I am an object. I am what others tell me who I am. I am me.
Community
As we grow, we mold into what the community is. We take in the roles we've acquired through the years.
This is Symbolic Interactionism.
This is why humans are called pragmatic actors.
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| 17/ F/ Davao |
[20:33] Maoey: asl mo po?
[20:34] joyce_ryoma69: 16 f
[20:34] joyce_ryoma69: kaw?
[20:35] Maoey: 17f davao
[20:35] joyce_ryoma69: layo mo
[20:36] Maoey: o nga eh. ikaw nasa luzon.. ako nasa mindanao. haha.
[20:36] Maoey: highschool ka pa ba?
[20:37] joyce_ryoma69: college na poh
[20:37] joyce_ryoma69: ay nga pla
[20:37] joyce_ryoma69: 17 n pla ako
[20:37] joyce_ryoma69: kahapon
[20:37] Maoey: haha. belated. ako nung 28 ako nag-17
[20:37] joyce_ryoma69: ah
[20:37] joyce_ryoma69: belated din
[20:38] Maoey: san ka nag-aaral?
[20:38] joyce_ryoma69: URS binangonan
[20:39] Maoey: ano course mo?
[20:39] joyce_ryoma69: BSA
[20:39] Maoey: A as in? Architecture?
[20:40] joyce_ryoma69: Accountancy
[20:40] Maoey: oohh.. wow. so matalino ka sa math? haha.
[20:40] joyce_ryoma69: hindi
[20:41] joyce_ryoma69: bkit ba lhat yan ang sinsabi pag sinasabi ko ang course koh
[20:41] Maoey: pero ang tapang mo at nag accountancy ka...
[20:41] joyce_ryoma69: matapang...?
[20:41] Maoey: siguro kasi usually ang mga nasa accountancy, mattalino sa math oor hilig talaga nila ang math..
[20:41] joyce_ryoma69: anung matapang dun?
[20:41] Maoey: kasi may iba takot mag accountancy dahil sa math
[20:42] joyce_ryoma69: gusto ko kasi talaga ito eh
[20:42] joyce_ryoma69: elementary pa
[20:42] Maoey: balak mo maging CPA?
[20:43] joyce_ryoma69: yah
[20:43] joyce_ryoma69: malaki ang kita eh
[20:43] joyce_ryoma69: hehehe
[20:43] Maoey: haha. oo nga noh.. ayaw mo mag proceed to law? para maging CPA lawyer ka?
[20:44] joyce_ryoma69: baka naman mabaliw na ako nun...hehehe
[20:44] Maoey: aww. haha.
[20:44] joyce_ryoma69: balak ko after BSA magttourism ako
[20:45] Maoey: oh? anong ba ang trabaho ng tourism graduate?
[20:46] joyce_ryoma69: tourist guide...hehehe
[20:46] Maoey: haha. aside from that, ano pa iba?
[20:46] joyce_ryoma69: ewan koh
[20:47] Maoey: aww.. pero trip mo lang talaga mag tourism?
[20:47] joyce_ryoma69: basta alam koh makapunta in different countries
[20:47] Maoey: aahh.. oo nga.. flight stewardess
[20:47] Maoey: masayang trabaho yan.. libre ang tour mo around the world
[20:47] joyce_ryoma69: oo nga
[20:47] joyce_ryoma69: kazi kapag CPA na ako...malaki na kita ko nun
[20:48] joyce_ryoma69: kapag nakapasa ako sa CPA board Exam trabaho na ang lalapit sakin
[20:48] Maoey: oh? really? maganda yaan..
[20:49] joyce_ryoma69: yah
[20:49] joyce_ryoma69: yun ay kung papasa
[20:49] joyce_ryoma69: hehehe
[20:49] Maoey: haha. kaya mo yaan.. magaral ka lang ng mabuti..
[20:50] Maoey: HELLO?
[20:50] joyce_ryoma69: yezzzz?
[20:50] Maoey: sorry.. naputol ata net ko. haha.
[20:51] joyce_ryoma69: ah....u're back
[20:51] Maoey: yeaah.
[20:51] joyce_ryoma69: ah
[20:51] joyce_ryoma69: nu nym mu/
[20:52] Maoey: maui. ikaw? joyce..
[20:52] joyce_ryoma69: yah
[20:53] Maoey: soo, topic?
[20:53] joyce_ryoma69: kaw?
[20:54] Maoey: hmm... wala ako maisip eh.. hehe
[20:54] joyce_ryoma69: mahilig ka ba sa bookz?
[20:55] Maoey: yess.. ikaw rin?
[20:55] joyce_ryoma69: yah
[20:56] joyce_ryoma69: mejo lang pla
[20:56] Maoey: sino favorite author mo?
[20:56] joyce_ryoma69: gusto ko si jk rowling ng harry potter pero gusto ko din si anne rice,...
[20:56] joyce_ryoma69: kaw?
[20:57] Maoey: jk rowling din. ganda kasi ng harrypotter.. hmm.. gusto ko rin si stephenie meyer, nicholas sparks at paulo coelho..
[20:58] joyce_ryoma69: h...natapos mo na b yung harry potter?
[20:58] Maoey: yup. ikaw?
[20:58] joyce_ryoma69: 1-7?
[20:58] Maoey: yup.
[20:58] joyce_ryoma69: 1-6 lng natapos ko
[20:59] joyce_ryoma69: ala kais ako nung book 7
[20:59] joyce_ryoma69: sa internet ko lng nabasa
[20:59] Maoey: ooh.. ako rin.. nagdownload ako ng ebook~
[20:59] Maoey: di kasi napadala ni ate ung libro.. so, nagtiis ako sa ebook. hehe
[20:59] joyce_ryoma69: ah....
[20:59] joyce_ryoma69: ako din eh
[20:59] joyce_ryoma69: ala akong pera pambili ng books
[21:00] Maoey: mahal na kasi ang libro
[21:00] joyce_ryoma69: yah lalo n yung magaganda
[21:00] joyce_ryoma69: peo hindi ako ngbabasa ng book na hindi ko gusto
[21:01] Maoey: ako rin.. pero kelangan kong basahin ung iba eh.. para sa school~ boohoo.
[21:01] joyce_ryoma69: school what?
[21:01] Maoey: UP..
[21:02] joyce_ryoma69: UP ka?
[21:02] Maoey: yup. UP in Mindanao.. di kasi pumayag parents ko na sa Manila ako mag-aral eh.
[21:03] joyce_ryoma69: wow
[21:03] joyce_ryoma69: nung course?
[21:03] Maoey: BA Communication Arts ~ gusto ko sana mag Computer Science, pero parang di ko kaya ang math nila. haha.
[21:05] joyce_ryoma69: grabe talino mo noh
[21:05] Maoey: hahaha. hindi naman. maswerte lang at nakapasok ako. haha.
[21:06] joyce_ryoma69: hirap daw ng exam eh
[21:07] Maoey: nakakatakot lang ung 'right minus wrong' na rule.. kasi kelangan mo talagang mag ingat sa mga sagot mo..
[21:08] joyce_ryoma69: ganun
[21:09] Maoey: yeep. di ka nag take ng test?
[21:11] joyce_ryoma69: hindi eh
[21:11] joyce_ryoma69: hindi ako nakapgpasa ng application form
[21:11] Maoey: ooh.. sayang naman..
[21:12] joyce_ryoma69: hindi din
[21:12] Maoey: aww..
[21:12] joyce_ryoma69: alam ko namang hindi ako papasa eh
[21:12] joyce_ryoma69: sayang lang ibabayad ko
[21:12] Maoey: weh. there's no harm in trying naman..
[21:12] joyce_ryoma69: yung valedictorian nga namin pumasa sa non-quota pang course ako pa kaya
[21:13] Maoey: sa diliman xa? hirap talaga makapasa sa diliman eh.
[21:13] joyce_ryoma69: pati nung tym na yun busy kaming lahat ala akong tym mag-asikaso kasi pinabayaan ako nung mga kasabay qoh dapat nagpapasa
[21:13] Maoey: kaya nga nag up mindanao nalang ako.
[21:13] joyce_ryoma69: up manila
[21:14] Maoey: ooh...
[21:14] Maoey: sayang..
[21:14] joyce_ryoma69: uy w8 naadd n b kita sa fs?
[21:14] joyce_ryoma69: pero hindi ako nanghihinayang kasi masaya ako sa scholl ko ngayon
[21:14] Maoey: wala pa ata.. ano email mo?
[21:15] Maoey: buti naman.. at least nageenjoy ka sa school mo ngayon..
[21:20] Maoey: ano email mo sa friendster?
[21:21] joyce_ryoma69: xnxa na kumuha lang ako ng pagakin
[21:21] joyce_ryoma69: joice_javier01@ymail.com
[21:21] joyce_ryoma69: yan eadd ko sa fs
[21:21] Maoey: okie lang. wait lang po.
[21:22] joyce_ryoma69: k
[21:22] Maoey: na.add na po kita
[21:22] joyce_ryoma69: k accept ko nlng
[21:22] Maoey: ok..
[21:32] Maoey: ei. una na ako.. nice talking to you.
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| La Onion |
Social Penetration Theory
"The more we talk, the more I get to know you."
This could probably be the main idea behind the S.P. Theory.
Imagine yourself as an onion, and I as the wedge. We're in a party and we don't know each other. I come up to you and in order for me to get to know you , I'd, of course, talk to you. Ask you what's your name, where do you come from, and how old are you. After answering these questions, you begin to open yourself up to me, consciously or unconsciously. But not totally open, since it's our first time knowing each other. This is what we can call, casual friendship. When one knows a few basic things about the other. Now I know you, but not know know you.
Then the conversation goes on, and we'll start talking about personal things, private ones like your lovelife, opinions on this and that , etc. Thus making me, the wedge, penetrate you, the onion, more. I, as the wedge, am slowly going through your layers, knowing you more and more as the conversation goes on.
This could continue, but there could also be a time when this could stop. When the onion doesn't want to reveal some more of it's layers then the penetration stops. I, the wedge, could not go in any deeper, but I had made quite a deep opening through the onion, so technically I could go through the layers easily compared to the getting to know you stage.
This is could be quite dangerous if the wedge has a different motive. If the wedge has bad motives, then the onion is in danger because it has opened itself to the wedge. But with extra precautions, this could likely happen. The onion just has to be sensitive enough, and know whether the wedge is going too fast.
Another example comes from my experience during the Christmas Break.
During the Christmas break, I had the chance to meet new friends, whether their friends of friends or friends of the family. One new friend of mine is Rosanne Claire. Rosanne hails from the Great Down Under (Australia), specifically Queensland. We met during the Christmas Party of my Grandfather's workers. The reason why she was there is because her mom used to work for my Grandfather, and they're here in the Philippines to celebrate Christmas. She just graduated from high school, and is planning to major in New Media. Her dance troupe back in Australia usually performs Philippine Folk Dances like Tinikling and the like.
How did I manage to get all of this info?
Simple, I asked her. I wanted to get to know her more, and so I asked. Luckily for me, she didn't hesitate on answering my questions. Yes, the questions are really basic. But I know I've penetrated through her onion already. It might not be deep, but at least my wedge is there. Too bad she's leaving this weekend, I could've asked her more questions. Not only about herself, but also about Australia.
This is Social Penetration Theory.
I ask, you answer. My wedge penetrates, your onion opens.
Rosanne's the girl in black. and the rest of them are my cousins. :)
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